Comments on: Letting My Guard Down… http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/ and not going to take it anymore! Sat, 12 Dec 2009 17:31:12 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Tanya http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-608 Tanya Wed, 23 Apr 2008 13:40:38 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-608 It seems we all have "been there, experienced that." I did confront a young man one day when he made an exceptionally cruel remark. "I pity you for being so immature and insecure that the only way you can feel better about yourself is to insult other people and I am sure that your mother or grandmother would be ashamed of you." His buddies standing around started laughing. Did I change him??? No, he invited me to go do creative things to myself, but I felt better for at least addressing the issue. So...a pox on him! Keep up the good work! It seems we all have “been there, experienced that.” I did confront a young man one day when he made an exceptionally cruel remark. “I pity you for being so immature and insecure that the only way you can feel better about yourself is to insult other people and I am sure that your mother or grandmother would be ashamed of you.” His buddies standing around started laughing. Did I change him??? No, he invited me to go do creative things to myself, but I felt better for at least addressing the issue.
So…a pox on him! Keep up the good work!

]]> By: justoofat http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-563 justoofat Thu, 17 Apr 2008 03:54:48 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-563 I really am so overwhelmed by everyone's kind and generous comments. Your gentle support has reminded me that lurking around most corners there's goodness just waiting for me to find it. Whether you read this post and left me a kind word or two, or you simply sent some good thoughts my way, you have my sincere thanks. Cheers everyone! j I really am so overwhelmed by everyone’s kind and generous comments. Your gentle support has reminded me that lurking around most corners there’s goodness just waiting for me to find it.

Whether you read this post and left me a kind word or two, or you simply sent some good thoughts my way, you have my sincere thanks.

Cheers everyone!
j

]]> By: Tangie http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-561 Tangie Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:56:28 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-561 I cannot believe that happened to you! You are my hero for the day for #1 how you have handled the situation and #2 for your willingness to share. I love your blog! I cannot believe that happened to you! You are my hero for the day for #1 how you have handled the situation and #2 for your willingness to share. I love your blog!

]]> By: G.G. http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-560 G.G. Wed, 16 Apr 2008 14:59:26 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-560 Oh, my heart goes out to you! I've had moments like that too. But here's the thing--don't give those bastards the right to label you. You have the right to name yourself and see yourself anyway you want. If you're feeling thinner and healthier, don't let them take that away from you! Hang in there! I think everyone in life needs thick skin to deal with the asshats of every persuasion--those of us who are formerly fat are just used to letting the weight provide some of that protection for us. If people are hateful, it's because we are fat, ot because some people are just plain hateful--which is a tough thing itself to come to terms with, as a human being. Oh, my heart goes out to you! I’ve had moments like that too. But here’s the thing–don’t give those bastards the right to label you. You have the right to name yourself and see yourself anyway you want. If you’re feeling thinner and healthier, don’t let them take that away from you!

Hang in there! I think everyone in life needs thick skin to deal with the asshats of every persuasion–those of us who are formerly fat are just used to letting the weight provide some of that protection for us. If people are hateful, it’s because we are fat, ot because some people are just plain hateful–which is a tough thing itself to come to terms with, as a human being.

]]> By: ready2shrink http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-559 ready2shrink Wed, 16 Apr 2008 12:35:07 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-559 I have to agree with the above comment YOU and ALL of us are getting less fat and more healthy, are they getting any less rude...no they aren't. Pay them no mind all the people here in blog world think you are AWESOME! I have to agree with the above comment YOU and ALL of us are getting less fat and more healthy, are they getting any less rude…no they aren’t.

Pay them no mind all the people here in blog world think you are AWESOME!

]]> By: briy http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-558 briy Wed, 16 Apr 2008 05:49:51 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-558 I think everyone's already said what I could think to say, but one more time: ~hugs~ And THANK you for sharing this post. I'm so glad that you started to reach that comfort/confidence point, and I passionately hope you won't let this derail you. You're awesome, and they're just jerks. Keep it up! Take care! ~briy I think everyone’s already said what I could think to say, but one more time:

~hugs~ And THANK you for sharing this post. I’m so glad that you started to reach that comfort/confidence point, and I passionately hope you won’t let this derail you. You’re awesome, and they’re just jerks. Keep it up!

Take care!
~briy

]]> By: Kristy http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-557 Kristy Wed, 16 Apr 2008 04:37:31 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-557 Some people are so cruel and I don't think it matters who you are or what size you are there are people out there that just have to be cruel... As you start to feel better about yourself as you are, you will be able to ignore these people... I still don't class myself as skinny, but whenever I am having a FAT day I tell myself what I can do with my body and that size has nothing to do with this. For me I would say that I can run 14 kms which is amazing that my body can do this for me. For you think about something you haven't ever been able to do before. It really does work as for the first time ever I am starting to appreciate and love my body. Some people are so cruel and I don’t think it matters who you are or what size you are there are people out there that just have to be cruel… As you start to feel better about yourself as you are, you will be able to ignore these people…

I still don’t class myself as skinny, but whenever I am having a FAT day I tell myself what I can do with my body and that size has nothing to do with this. For me I would say that I can run 14 kms which is amazing that my body can do this for me. For you think about something you haven’t ever been able to do before. It really does work as for the first time ever I am starting to appreciate and love my body.

]]> By: JanB http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-556 JanB Wed, 16 Apr 2008 03:47:00 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-556 I have been in the same place. Men, especially young men, can be so hurtful. They're not just making assoholic remarks to you, they're doing it to old men, young boys, gays, pregnant ladies, basically any target. Don't let this get you down. If you judge yourself by their assessment, they gain the power. Walk proudly and remember, it's me and the others that are walking with you and put up that finger(if you're a bitch like me) and walk on by. They don't matter and they never did. They're soulless little boys trying to fulfill their dreams of being the bad boys. They're the cowardly school shooters, sadistic assholes and inside, they know they are nothing. I wish there had been a real man around, a real man would have done something. I have been in the same place. Men, especially young men, can be so hurtful. They’re not just making assoholic remarks to you, they’re doing it to old men, young boys, gays, pregnant ladies, basically any target.

Don’t let this get you down. If you judge yourself by their assessment, they gain the power. Walk proudly and remember, it’s me and the others that are walking with you and put up that finger(if you’re a bitch like me) and walk on by. They don’t matter and they never did.

They’re soulless little boys trying to fulfill their dreams of being the bad boys. They’re the cowardly school shooters, sadistic assholes and inside, they know they are nothing. I wish there had been a real man around, a real man would have done something.

]]> By: The Cheshire Cat | Andrew is getting fit http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-555 The Cheshire Cat | Andrew is getting fit Wed, 16 Apr 2008 01:28:59 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-555 [...] wrote on her blog: Lately, I’ve been feeling so good about myself. I’ve been counting up the [...] [...] wrote on her blog: Lately, I’ve been feeling so good about myself. I’ve been counting up the [...]

]]> By: BeckStein http://justoofat.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/letting-my-guard-down/#comment-554 BeckStein Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:58:55 +0000 http://justoofat.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-554 This is my first visit to your blog and I was truly moved by your words and impressed by your willingness to share. I'm sure you know that we're all insecure about ourselves, and those who are the most vocal (like the @$$holes you encountered) are generally the most insecure out of the bunch. Don't let this detour you from your good journey. Just be prepared for a possible next encounter and keep going, you're doing amazing! Besides, I have a feeling you'll have the last laugh when all is said and done. This is my first visit to your blog and I was truly moved by your words and impressed by your willingness to share. I’m sure you know that we’re all insecure about ourselves, and those who are the most vocal (like the @$$holes you encountered) are generally the most insecure out of the bunch. Don’t let this detour you from your good journey. Just be prepared for a possible next encounter and keep going, you’re doing amazing! Besides, I have a feeling you’ll have the last laugh when all is said and done.

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